So recently, I had an experience which is probably fairly unique to parenting in Los Angeles. While this situation can occur anywhere, the frequency is more likely to occur in Los Angeles, New York, and maybe Washington DC. I would love to hear feedback on how you would have handled the situation.
This post will unfortunately and likely be the first in a series. As things arise in the current socio-political environment, I need to speak out and I need to take a stand. Just a warning. This post is going to be political. It is going to contain strong rhetoric, and it is going to be accurate. This post is going to talk about what is happening today and the reality of that. This post is going to be critical and harsh. So read on or opt out, but you've been warned.
What I am about to say is controversial, and I know that. I want to preempt this with the following statement: I respect everyone's parenting choices. I may not agree with them, but you need to do what is right for your family. Please read what I am about to say as a comment on propaganda not on any individual's parenting choices.
I want to take a moment to apologize for my extended absence from blogging. My toddler has just gotten over being sick back to back to back. Between trying to balance life, taking care of a sick child, and celebrating Mother's day and everything else I haven't had the time to sit at the computer and blog. I promise that I will be back at it, and you can expect to see more from me in the coming weeks.
We just started Potty Training my son. He is 2.5 and totally ready. Today he exclaimed "I need to go poop!" as soon as we got into the car. We pulled over, pulled out the potty, and we didn't make it. Super proud he told us, super disappointed I had to change another dirty diaper.
So, If you have been really paying attention, I have said before that I am the father of 2 but there is only one birth story. Well, when I had started working on the blog, I planned on going through things in chronological order and at a much higher rate of speed. Well, the best laid plans right? Well, here is the second birth story!
I have seen so many myths and misrepresentations of what Attachment Parenting is recently, I felt the need to write about it. Put something out there that maybe will help some parent somewhere struggling to get their partner involved, finding childcare, struggling with discipline or boundaries, etc. I sat down to write and absolutely scrapped everything at least once. Ok, so why am I scrapping what I have written about something so important? Why did I hate everything I wrote?
Well before I start about Attachment Parenting, I need to say this because I realized it is why I hated everything. What I am about to say is my understanding of Attachment Parenting. It is not a judgement about anyone's parenting style or choices. We all execute Attachment Parenting differently, so it looks a little different for each family. Also, some families may not be "strict" attachment parents, while others may be almost fanatical. We each make decisions about what is best for our family, so absolutely no judgement.
When I started venturing out into the world of parenting groups, I had no idea what to expect. I had hoped to meet like-minded families, to share experiences, to learn, to grow, to meaningfully be accompanied on this shared journey of parenthood. Well, that is not what I found at all.
When I found out I was going to be a parent, I wasn't sure what my dad voice was going to be. Was I going to be a voice of reason, discipline, empathy, a combination? What really struck me was not that I needed to find my dad voice within my family, but that I needed it outside of my family. I think what was worse was the realization that I could lose it. Finding it again was even more of a challenge.
I'm Matt a.k.a. The Attached Abba (Abba = Hebrew for Dad). This blog is detailing my journey in parenthood, and will hopefully provide a space for other dads to find support and insight.